Weddings can be touchy events. By “touchy” I mean that it’s very easy for feelings to get hurt and grudges to be born. What’s worse is, you may never know the full story until long after the marriage ceremony is said and done. My mum described my wedding as being like a swan swimming on a lake. On the surface, everything looked calm and beautiful, but underneath the surface there was fast, chaotic, crazy motion. Neither bride nor groom is immune to this phenomenon, but we brides do seem to catch the brunt of everything. I guess it’s a consequence of having it be known as “your” big day.
It means you have to take the good with the bad for everything from the bridal shower to the bachelorette party. One area where good and bad seem to mix easily is selecting the bridesmaids. It’s not always as easy as picking your sisters and friends, especially when you’re like me with four brothers and all guy friends. What I learned from the whole experience, though, is that what’s most important is to not worry about being political with it and just pick who you want because it really is your day and no one else’s.
Picking who you want does not have to be held by any restriction…even tradition. For example, my best friend in the whole world is a guy, so I just made him my “man of honor” rather than have a maid of honor. This led me to get some unique bridesmaid gifts, but it still worked beautifully for the ceremony and the reception.
My husband and I also decided to have a small wedding party, which worked well because then there weren’t a ton of people expecting to get in to it. My main point is, do what you want. Get the unique bridal party gifts that no one expects. There are a lot of places out there that offer great bridesmaids’ gifts, so have fun searching and find whatever represents you. Save money and buy cheap bridal accessories because on the big day no one will know the difference. Just don’t stress yourself on making everyone else happy. Believe me, I know it’s much easier said than done, but it will make your life much easier.